Footsteps in the journey

As a woman (and I'm sure some men) we tend to be caregivers. We want to be there for a loved one, or a friend, when they're in trouble. But sometimes the best thing to do is sit back and allow the person to go through what they are going through without any kind of help. The help actually becomes a hindrance. It can be a delicate balance at times. I knew that would be the case with Tanya, when I first learned of the cancer.

I knew right from the start about the "proverbial stiff upper lip" that Taryn is talking about. So when I first heard the news, one of the first things out of my mouth was, 'you're not gonna sit there and go through this yourself, you have to allow people to help you.' I knew that would be tough for Tanya, but I have been so proud of the help that she has so willingly embraced along the process. Because of that, I've tried to be mindful of the times that she has asked not to be called/e-mailed/texted. But I tell you, as being a loved one, which makes this journey mine as well, it has been very hard sometimes to sit back and wait patiently. Allowing the healing to happen, only hearing about her being through a person or two, here or there. It's tough. But like I said, it's a delicate balance and I know it's what is best for her at this time. The positive to it, though, is that I have gotten to know Tanya's sister better, whom, as anyone reading these posts can see, is an amazingly talented writer like her sister.

Love you Tanya.

Love, Dani